Leadership anxiety is increasingly abundant and women leaders are more susceptible than men. Some of the causes of management worries are apparent, like layoffs and workplace conflicts. Other potent causes of leadership anxiety are hidden, including those discussed in this article. Although most people are unaware of the negative effects of dysfunctional parental beliefs and behaviors on leadership success and confidence, they are one of the most common causes of leadership fears and unease. Self-awareness, confidence building and other proven leadership tools described in this Women’s Leadership Confidence series are proven ways to prevent and alleviate women’s leadership anxiety.
Do You Cart Your Parents’ Beliefs, Behaviors or Other Baggage to Work Every Day?
Most young children notice and mimic their parents’ facial expressions, gestures, and other behaviors. As little ones, we’re a bit like a shriveled, dry sponge that eagerly devours moisture in a bucket of water and then changes shape. For better or worse, parental input creates dramatic expansion in our rapidly growing brains.
Before we become mobile creatures enthusiastically exploring a world offering a vast array of choices, we’re also similar to caged birds that can only observe their environment within a confined space unless someone transports their cage to a different area. Since what is in our line of sight is what we think exists, most young children, like a caged canary, experience life and observe parental actions without classifying behaviors into categories like good, bad, helpful, unhelpful, effective and inappropriate.
When we’re very young, our developing brains aren’t set up to examine our parents’ beliefs. We know our parents are large, powerful creatures who know much more than we do, so we accept their beliefs as the truth.
A parent is usually a child’s first role model. Even though most parents say they want their children to be happy, healthy and successful in some way, parenting is only one of many demanding responsibilities that challenge adults. For many reasons, most people are inadequately prepared to raise a child. Even though some parents have excellent support systems and many people take parenting classes, parenting is an ever-changing series of complex challenges with more “What if?” questions than definite answers. It’s no wonder that even the best of parents creates some negative effects that can block your confidence and success as a leader.
This series of Women’s Leadership Anxiety and Confidence articles will help you become more aware of how we unconsciously carry our parents’ beliefs and behaviors into every aspect of our lives, including our self-image, relationships and careers. You’ll understand how dysfunctional parental behaviors often combine with a parent’s inaccurate, unexamined beliefs. You’ll comprehend how you’ve unconsciously integrated these beliefs and behaviors into your own consciousness. You’ll notice how family conditioning can diminish your leadership confidence and success.
Most importantly, during this article series, you’ll discover how you can gain freedom to become the confident, exemplary leader you want to become. We’ll begin the series with an article about the effects on women leaders when one or more parents were critical of their children, even when their kids were doing their best. Over time, we’ll cover the following types of parental influences that can deflate your decision-making, confidence and effectiveness.
Examples of How Parental Beliefs and Behaviors Can Decrease Your Leadership Confidence and Success
Use Women’s Leadership Coaching to Alleviate Leadership Anxiety
The next article in this Women’s Leadership Anxiety and Confidence series describes eight additional parenting styles and their potential effects on your leadership. In subsequent articles, you’ll discover more about how you can truly gain freedom from family beliefs and behaviors that have been holding you back.
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© 2019 Doris Helge, Ph.D. as interviewed on “The Today Show,” CNN and NPR. Certified Master Leadership and Executive Coach Doris Helge is author of bestselling books, including “Joy on the Job” and “Transforming Pain Into Power.” Doris has helped hundreds of leaders like you meet every challenge you’re facing. To make sure you receive each weekly tip, click here to join our mailing list.