The Power and Pitfalls of a Decisive Leadership Style
The Power of a Strong, Authoritative Leadership Style
Whether you’re a woman business owner, a corporate executive or a team leader, if you’re a “natural leader,” you’re known as an independent self-starter who is energetic and self-reliant. It’s easier for you to gain expert or authority status than most of your peers. You’re decisive. You know how to take intelligent risks without your emotions holding you back.
As a child and a young adult, you probably demonstrated unusual inner strength and a spirited nature. Some adults applauded you, labeling you “a confident, born executive.” Others criticized you as “too big for your britches.”
Nonconformity may be part of your natural leadership style. You take charge. You meet challenges head-on. You’re courageous, honest and direct. When other people shy away from controversy, you head into battle with assertiveness and confidence. You easily sense other people’s weak spots. You protect, support and empower loyal people who support your organization’s mission.
The Pitfalls of a Natural Leadership Personality
For you, working with incompetent, indecisive individuals or people who act at a slow pace can feel like enduring the sound of fingers scraping a chalkboard over and over. You often place too much pressure on yourself. Work-life balance can be a major challenge. When people don’t follow through or things go awry, your blood pressure can soar.
You’ve probably more than once been labeled authoritarian, controlling, insensitive, demanding or bossy. A previous article in this series discussed your strengths, your resiliency and how strong women leaders in male-dominated industries are often misunderstood and mislabeled.
You know you can depend on yourself. Because you’re so capable, you may sometimes wish you could accomplish every task alone. Self-sufficiency is highly important to you. It can be uncomfortable to feel vulnerable, triggering a fear that you aren’t in control of your life or safe, particularly regarding finances or relationships. Although it’s lonely at the top, the thought of becoming buddies with direct reports or team members makes a bright red “Danger!” sign flash in your consciousness.
It’s often difficult to justify taking time to meet your personal needs. Your health will suffer if you don’t establish and practice self-care. Sometimes you need to withdraw from the world and explore your emotions in ways that feel safe to you without fearing that other people will take advantage of you. Taking thoughtful action can help you transform feelings like despair.
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I’ve worked with strong, self-directed leaders whose “natural leadership hardwiring” sometimes clashes with the needs and preferences of their direct reports and team members. After a few years of testing various approaches, my leadership and executive clients gained lasting, positive results from the following holistic approach.
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© 2019 Doris Helge, Ph.D. as interviewed on “The Today Show,” CNN and NPR. Certified Master Leadership and Executive Coach Doris Helge is author of bestselling books, including “Joy on the Job,” Doris has helped hundreds of leaders like you meet every challenge you’re facing. Click here now to sign up for your complimentary Leadership Coaching Consultation.